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I’ve been feeling overwhelmed by all the videos on Instagram and other platforms that tell you all the ways to have a perfect relationship and “if you love someone you should do this”, all the books and relationship coaches, other people’s opinions and apps and ALL THE THINGS! I feel so much pressure to do all these things to be the perfect partner or friend, that sometimes I feel like I can’t just be me.


The reality is that love looks different for everyone, it won’t be the same because no two people are the same. Yes there are some great tips online for couples, families and friends, but the best part about love is learning together, and growing together, it’s all the little things and moments that make you feel special, it's how you work through problems together that make you stronger. There is so much pressure to have the perfect relationship now, each person has to be perfect and show up perfectly, there’s no room for mistakes and learning in this current era of love and “if he wanted to he would” and “dump him”. Love isn’t always easy and that’s okay - stop searching for perfection, stop comparing yourself to the couples who only share their best moments, or listen to the coaches who tell you the 1000 things you need to be doing to have the best relationship. Trust YOUR intuition, understand yourself and your person, do what’s best for you and your relationships.


    VAISHNAVI DHAMODHARAN 🩵

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